Trouble, Perplexity, and Rejection

Trouble, perplexity, persecution, and rejection are all difficult to face. The Apostle Paul had all of these but understood that there is a power that will enable a person to face such treatment without distress, despair, self-pity, or ruin. It is the power of God. The end products of distress can definitely be bodily changes. Your blood pressure, respiration, and digestion can be affected. If you have a grudge against someone, who are you hurting? Who is affected when you are seething over a person who isn’t even in your presence? Yourself, of course. The other person may not even know you are having trouble thinking about them in a positive way. There is a power that will enable you to face your circumstances without distress. It is the power of God, made available to you through … [Read more...]

Adjusting to God for Peace

Adjusting to God for peace can be difficult for us to understand but it is a wonderful resource available from an abiding relationship with Christ. Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:6-7). The verse above promises the peace that passes understanding will guard our hearts and minds as a by-product of prayer: a peace that is a quiet, still, calm, serene state of heart and mind. Everyone seeks this, but not everyone wants to meet the conditions. Prayer and supplication imply the acceptance of the truth that you must submissively and earnestly relinquish control over the … [Read more...]

Does Truth Help or Hurt?

Does truth help or hurt you? I guess it depends on how you respond to the truth! George wanted to clear up the gnawing sense of anxiety and growing unhappiness that plagued him, and hoped to do so before anyone else found out about his condition. So he quietly sought professional counseling. He would rather have died than have his associates learn that he was bored, with church and its activities, dissatisfied with his wife, and annoyed with his fellow employees at work. But the counseling experience was a shattering one. The counselor, who George suspected was a non-Christian, pressed him to share his antagonisms, and George did not like it. He insisted he had no antagonisms. He stoutly maintained that since he was a Christian he loved everyone and was nice to all. Still the … [Read more...]

Is Worry an Issue for You?

Do you worry? Is worry an issue for you? Does it give you hang-ups? Does it occupy your time and your mind? Does it keep you from having the peace that you need? Does it keep you from resting when you need to rest? Some people are worried that they might get anxious about something! Christians are not exempt from practicing the fine art of worrying. Even though we should walk in the Spirit so that we do not fulfill the desires of the flesh we still tend to worry about things we cannot control. Someone once said, “It ain’t no use puttin’ up your umbrella till it rains.” Another said, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It will give you something to do but it won’t get you anywhere.” Charles Mayo said, “Worry affects the circulation, heart, the glands, and the whole nervous system. I never … [Read more...]

Two Forms of Patience: Human and Spiritual

Two forms of patience reside in the believer–human and spiritual. The spiritual patience residing in every believer is the power of the God Himself! If that is so, then as long as you are in right relationship with God, the spirit of patience will control you. The question is not whether or not patience is available, but will you experience the patience that resides in you. Now we exhort you, brethren, warn those who are unruly, comfort the fainthearted, uphold the weak, be patient with all.  1 Thessalonians 5:14 The focus in this passage is to be patient with all–not most. Do you need to learn more patience than you are currently experiencing? Most of us would say yes but we do not want to go through the process required to learn patience. Spiritual attributes described in Scripture, … [Read more...]

Amazing Testimony of A Gentle Spirit!

This amazing testimony gives evidence of a truly gentle spirit. May this warm your heart as you read! Dr. Henry Brandt and I were asked to be consultants for an organization that Chuck Colson began called Prison Fellowship. One of the prisons that we consulted was in Houston, Texas. The leaders asked us to train their counselors and staff in biblical counseling and put together a program of discipleship for the inmates in the program. One of the requirements for entering the program was that a participant could possibly be paroled in eighteen to twenty-four months. After all, if they were going to be released, then releasing a person empowered by Christ instead of empowered by their flesh would be much preferred. One of the men in the group was there for committing murder. He had … [Read more...]

Feelings Can Really Hurt!

Feelings can really hurt! I hear that statement often. But just what does that really mean? Autonomic Nervous System There are certain emotional centers in the brain that are linked to the entire body through the autonomic nervous system. This system can be compared to the wires that carry electricity from a main power source to all the outlets in your house. Charges of emotions are relayed from the brain, down the spinal cord, and through the autonomic nerves to the blood vessels, muscle tissues, mucous membranes, and skin. So when you are under emotional stress, all parts of your body can be subject to physical discomfort because of a change in blood nourishment, glandular function, or muscle tone. For example, a speaker who is about to be introduced before a crowd oftentimes is … [Read more...]

What Is My Problem?

"What is my problem? Why can't I change to be better? I need help! If I could just find out what the issue is, then I would know what to do to get better!" Ever had these questions and thoughts? All of us need a refresher on this subject. In fact, this article is essential reading for anyone who is serious about overcoming anxiety, stress, and frustration. Let’s first set the context by considering this passage from Proverbs: Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and depart from evil. It will be health to your flesh, and strength to your bones. (Proverbs 3:7-8) One of our responsibilities as Christians is to be witnesses to weary travelers who are trying to use human resources to deal with sin. The collapse of family life and the escalation of dishonesty, stealing, violence, … [Read more...]

I Need Your Help!

Years ago, I asked the publisher of The Heart of the Problem to translate the workbook into Spanish. It simply never became a reality. But, thank the Lord, things have changed! A few months ago, I requested the rights back from the publisher for The Heart of the Problem. I am very grateful for the many years that B&H published and distributed the work and that they granted my request. This granting of rights back to me has allowed me to produce this new resource. Now, the primary place to acquire any of The Heart of the Problem resources are now from www.kerryskinner.com. So, after many hundreds of hours of work, The Heart of the Problem is now available in Spanish! Here Is Where I Need Your Help Would you help me to spread the news that it is available? Maybe your … [Read more...]

How To Fight Back! by Henry Brandt

Like most people, you may yearn for serenity in the midst of conflict. But what price are you willing to pay for such peace? For many persons, the cost is too high. The grudges they bear are too precious to surrender. It would be too great a sacrifice to give up complaining. They enjoy these more than peace! “Do you mean I’m supposed to be happy when my husband treats me the way he does?” a woman asked tearfully. It was true that her life was one of tribulation. Yet if God is the God of all comfort (2 Cor. 1:3-4), He gives comfort in tribulation. If you as a Christian have no more peace in a trying circumstance than the non-Christian does, then you must, like the non-Christian, battle by wit or will power to free yourself. Happiness will depend on your ability to stay on top, … [Read more...]

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