Personal Growth

Pressure!

December 10, 2018 | 1 Comment

Feeling the pressure of the moment? Is your job bringing an over abundance of pressure? What about your health, children, or other relationships? Pressure comes in all kinds of shapes and sizes. Sometimes the pressure comes over you like a dark cloud surprising you in such a way that you can’t determine the source of the problem. Physical Pressure A few years ago, my wife Elaine began to feel pressure around her neck, across her shoulders, and then in her chest. Where did it come from? Many suggested to her that it was panic or stress that caused the problem. Friends gathered around us with focused prayer and care. As we examined what was going on in our lives, we knew that our work in ministry was at a wonderful level, our family was fine, and our marriage had never been better. We ruled out panic and stress and realized that she had a physical problem. Elaine’s family history of heart problems was our first thought. Elaine went to her doctor, a wonderful friend, who said we must get aggressive with finding the source of the problem. First an EKG, then a nuclear stress test, and then the process finished […] Read More

Joy Requires God’s Reservoir

November 26, 2018 | 3 Comments

Joy does not come from a discouraged soul. Joy requires God’s reservoir of help. Our world needs needs a good dose of these virtues: love, joy, peace, long-suffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Most mental-health workers would agree with that statement. We would, however, sharply disagree on how to generate such virtues. If you were an atheist, your only option would be to find a way to create an environment that will either produce these qualities inside a person or release them from within a person, assuming something is blocking their release. I spoke with a man who wished that he had love, joy, and peace in his home. While the man had great wealth, he realized that he could not find a doctor, counselor, or a retail store where he could buy love, joy, and peace. He admitted that everything he had tried in this world–money, fame, and power–had not brought happiness. These virtues are not available “over the counter.” Qualities such as love, joy, and peace are only available as a result of a relationship with Jesus Christ. It is a shame that many people in our world today will not accept this fact. The Bible says […] Read More

Protect Yourself!

November 19, 2018 | 0 Comments

Protect yourself today with God’s power to carry you through a negative experience! My wife, Elaine, had a negative event become a positive affirmation of God’s power to protect her life. I pray as you read Elaine’s Testimony (Taken from the book, The Joy of Repentance), that you will be encouraged and strengthened in your faith. Elaine’s Testimony: I had just gone through major surgery and had been home from the hospital for a week. Up until that time I had not been alone. In fact, I was feeling smothered by everyone’s attention. My husband asked me if I would be all right while he and our little boy went to the Fair Grounds. Once a year, there was a large celebration called Dairy Day in this small Texas town. They wanted to go see what was taking place at Dairy Day so they left the house and I was left on my own. The first thing I did was read my Bible and pour my heart out to God over some sin that He had shown me earlier that day. I received God’s cleansing that day. It was so good to be alone and have that uninterrupted time with my Lord. A man […] Read More

Encouragement for the Discouraged

November 12, 2018 | 0 Comments

Is there anyone who doesn’t need encouragement? Encouragement helps to bring the discouraged out of despair. The Scripture states, My soul melts from heaviness; strengthen me according to Your word. Psalm 119:28 One writer said, “Flatter me and I may not believe you. Criticize me and I may not like you. Ignore me and I may not forgive you. Encourage me and I may not forget you.” Encouragement really is the spice of life. A word of encouragement during a failure is worth more that an hour of praise after success. Three Key Truths About Encouragement 1. Spend time with the right people! Maybe you are going through a discouraging time in your life and need strong encouragement from your friends. To be encouraged you must spend time with people who are like-minded; who have the same beliefs, goals, and concerns on their hearts. Don’t avoid the very people who can help you! Many years ago, during a discouraging time in my life, I read a book by Chuck Swindoll entitled, Encourage Me. I discovered personally what Swindoll explained in his book. When you are discouraged, the weight of discouragement can literally drop your shoulders and your smile. The entire day […] Read More

The Heart of the Problem (Anger-part 5 of 5)

October 22, 2018 | 0 Comments

The Heart of the Problem is the Problem of the Heart! *This five-part series is an overview of The Heart of the Problem book/workbook. If you discover help in these articles, I encourage you to purchase the workbook at www.kerryskinner.com/books and go deeper in your discovery. For detailed training as a biblical counselor, see https://thinklifechange.com/our-program/ Dealing with anger is the single greatest issue that comes to the consulting room. Though many deny it to be their problem, many more realize that it is the problem. If the article is helpful to you, please forward it to your friends, or post it on facebook, linked in, or twitter. God bless you in your studies! Anger is One Letter Away from Danger! Have you ever lost your keys? What was your response? Have you ever been cut off in traffic? What was your response? Is being a little bit angry like being a little bit pregnant? The one single problem that everyone is plagued with universally is anger. But, if there is one topic in which there is universal disagreement, it would be how to tame anger. Most Christians believe their anger is always righteous. However, James says the anger of “man” does not produce […] Read More

The Heart of the Problem (part 4 of 5-Unforgiveness)

October 14, 2018 | 1 Comment

The Heart of the Problem is the Problem of the Heart! *This five-part series is an overview of The Heart of the Problem book/workbook. If you discover help in these articles, I encourage you to purchase the workbook at www.kerryskinner.com/books and go deeper in your discovery. For detailed training as a biblical counselor, see https://thinklifechange.com/our-program/ If the article is helpful to you, please forward it to your friends, or post it on facebook, linked in, or twitter. God bless you in your studies! Dealing with Unforgiveness Forgiveness is a major roadblock in personal relationships. If a person is in bondage to a particular sin, they may keep asking for forgiveness of a particular sin yet they never freed from the sin. Could it be because of an unforgiving spirit? Simon Peter was talking to Jesus and His disciples trying to show how spiritual he was. My paraphrase of Matthew 18:21 is, “Jesus, when it comes to the issue of someone offending us, how many times should we forgive them? Up to seven times?” Peter  thought he was being generous. He seemed to be showing off about how gracious he was and what a forgiving person he was. Jesus said, “No, Peter. Forgive an […] Read More

The Heart of the Problem (part 3 of 5)

October 8, 2018 | 0 Comments

The Heart of the Problem is the Problem of the Heart! *This five-part series is an overview of The Heart of the Problem book/workbook. If you discover help in these articles, I encourage you to purchase the workbook at www.kerryskinner.com/books and go deeper in your discovery. For detailed training as a biblical counselor, see https://thinklifechange.com/our-program/ If the article is helpful to you, please forward it to your friends, or post it on facebook, linked in, or twitter. God bless you in your studies! Using the Bible as a Mirror If the Lord looks at the heart, then it follows that a checkup of your soul should be more critical than an examination of your physical appearance. A checkup of the soul need not take longer than a checkup of one’s personal appearance. Regular checkups will serve you well if you correct what needs attention, but often we will go for weeks or months, or even years, without checking up on our hearts. When people come into my consulting room, I can see that they have taken time to look nice. However, what I talk about is the part of them you cannot see, the world of thoughts, feelings, and emotions underneath the skin. […] Read More

The Heart of the Problem (part 2-repentance)

October 1, 2018 | 0 Comments

The Heart of the Problem is the Problem of the Heart! *This five-part series is an overview of The Heart of the Problem book/workbook. If you discover help in these articles, I encourage you to purchase the workbook at www.kerryskinner.com/books and go deeper in your discovery. For detailed training as a biblical counselor, see https://thinklifechange.com/our-program/ If the article is helpful to you, please forward it to your friends, or post it on facebook, linked in, or twitter. God bless you in your studies! The Five Step Process Of Repentance Repentance is the most positive word in the Bible. Jesus began and ended His ministry teaching and preaching repentance. But how long does it take for a person to repent? How long does a process take? A process takes as long as it takes. Repentance doesn’t have to take a long time, rebellion does!” The Meaning of Repentance William Douglas Chamberlain, a man devoted to helping God’s people understand repentance, wrote a book entitled The Meaning of Repentance. He said, “Repentance does not bring the Kingdom; it prepares men to participate in it. Repentance is not a device for escaping hell; it is a preparation for co-operating with God’s will on earth.” If repentance […] Read More

The Heart of the Problem (part 1 of 5)

September 24, 2018 | 0 Comments

The Heart of the Problem is the Problem of the Heart! *This five-part series is an overview of The Heart of the Problem book/workbook. If you discover help in these articles, I encourage you to purchase the workbook at www.kerryskinner.com/books and go deeper in your discovery. For detailed training as a biblical counselor, see https://thinklifechange.com/our-program/ If the article is helpful to you, please forward it to your friends, or post it on facebook, linked in, or twitter. God bless you in your studies! The Problem of Sin The next five articles will focus on truths found in the book, “The Heart of the Problem.” Two words have almost disappeared from the vocabulary of Christians. One of those words is the word sin. The other word is repentance. Many churches and believers avoid talking about sin and repentance because they believe it is a negative subject. It seems as though our world thinks our problems come mostly from our environment. Another words, the things around us is our problem. It certainly could not be us–could it? Our world has taught us that the reason you are like you are is because of your background, the way you were raised, how your mom and dad […] Read More

Overcoming Anxiety and Stress

September 10, 2018 | 0 Comments

Are you serious about overcoming anxiety, stress, and frustration? Consider this passage from Proverbs: Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and depart from evil. It will be health to your flesh, and strength to your bones. Proverbs 3:7-8 One of our responsibilities as Christians is to be witnesses to weary travelers who are trying to use human resources to deal with sin. The collapse of family life and the escalation of dishonesty, stealing, violence, crime, physical and sexual abuse speaks for itself. Our world needs relief from anxiety through a good dose of love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Many in our day wonder whether their problem can be solved by spending time in the solitude of some peaceful place or whether they must see their doctor for medical help. Christian’s minds are confused by the constant magazine articles, newspaper clippings, and news reports that claim a cure to the monotony of life. They wonder whether their problem is physical, emotional anxiety, or spiritual. Where do they turn when everyone is claiming to have the answer? Am I depressed? Am I A.D.D.? Do I have a chemical imbalance? Why am I so […] Read More

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