Marriage and Family

Marriage Unity

November 14, 2016 | 0 Comments

Marriage unity is desired by every newly married couple. Sometimes a few months or years later, a couple discovers they are not in as much agreement as when they were first married. A married couple told me this story. I will call him Brad and her Sally. The decision to yield their lives to the Lord was postponed again and again because, to them, becoming a Christian meant giving up a lifestyle that gave them much satisfaction. They believed that life would be dull, uninteresting, and frustrating without these pleasures. Gradually, the way of life that they were clinging to was becoming more and more burdensome. They wandered into a church one Sunday and responded to the pastor’s invitation to ask the Lord to come into their lives. Then they decided to explore the Bible for direction into a fulfilling life. They found some strange sayings. As they put them into practice, they experienced joyful contentment that made the old way of life drab in comparison. There was nothing to give up. There was a far better life to take up. The first principle that caught their attention was Jesus teaching His disciples: “For even the Son of Man did not […] Read More

Your Wedding Ceremony

February 29, 2016 | 1 Comment

Remember your wedding ceremony? The vows were like this: “Dearly beloved, we are gathered together in the sight of God…” Marriage is God’s idea. Remember His words? And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:18 Then you declared your intentions toward each other: “Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her…in sickness and in health; and forsaking all others, keep thee only unto her so long as you both shall live…? I…take you…to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part…” That ceremony suggests that: You are ready to start with each other as you are, not pending reform. You will love and respect each other in spite of your shortcomings. You will continue to work for the success of the marriage. Disagreements are normal and expected, but you keep working toward a meeting of minds. This is an exclusive relationship. “Forsaking all others,” the marriage comes first. “‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and […] Read More

Maintaining Good Communication in Marriage

February 15, 2016 | 0 Comments

The secret of good communication in marriage lies in two people applying the principle embodied in this verse: And just as you want men to do to you, you also do to them likewise. Luke 6:31 Here is a workable formula. And amazingly, it is easier to carry out than to try to figure out the other person and treat him accordingly. Scott and Ann found this out. Like practically everyone, each longed to be appreciated and have their viewpoint respected. They discovered that the rule Jesus gave is just as effective today as when He spoke it. Scott sought counsel because he was puzzled over his unhappy marriage. He and Ann, his wife, never exchanged harsh words. He kept his complaints against her to himself. He had looked at her personality and her idiosyncrasies from all angles and tried to do what would bring a balance between them. They never argued. But with all their efforts at adjustment, there was little happiness. Their approach did not work because they simply could not figure each other out. Adjustments based on this faulty approach were bound to fail. To do unto others as you would have them do to you is […] Read More

Marriage–Inevitable Changes

February 8, 2016 | 4 Comments

Marriage is full of inevitable changes! Many couples have in mind how things should go and are not prepared to face a change of direction. Maybe you have expected a certain outcome and then something happens that totally changes what you had expected? In this suspense-filled world of ours with its dramatic changes, one fact is certain–the certainty of uncertainty. You can expect the unexpected to happen. The mature person, especially the Christian, approaches the changes of life with interest, enjoying the variety and meeting the challenge. Change One of the great tasks facing marriage partners is that of accepting the fact of change. In a marriage there is a continual series of changing events which demand a constant adjustment of both husband and wife. Pregnancy, the arrival of each child, the absence of children, moving, neighborhood changes, church responsibilities to assume or to give up, the shifting scene at school–these are some of the changes that come to each couple, with their corresponding adjustments. At times husbands or wives say their partner is not the person they married. Of course not. Just as your children keep changing as they grow up, so do you. At age one, your children act […] Read More

The Beginning of Marriage

August 5, 2015 | 1 Comment

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Philippians 2:3 “I want to be a better partner.” You say this, thinking back over a multitude of incidents that make up the history of your family. Some of them were funny when they happened; others are funny only as we look back on them. Still others were gravely serious. Some were puzzling. There are months on end when husband and wife get along beautifully; and then, out of the clear blue sky, there are frequent disagreements. Then, just as mysteriously, things clear up. This is the ebb and flow, the fascination, the never-ending variety, the multitude of moods that make up family living. How can we do our part better? Seldom, if ever, do the circumstances of living together transform the two people of a marriage into an ever-loving, ever-agreeable, happy pair–fairy tales, popular love songs, and a gamble of fate notwithstanding. A happy marriage involves a much greater challenge than simply finding a partner with whom you live happily ever after. It is more than some strange chemistry that draws and holds you together forever. Soon after the […] Read More

Maintaining Good Marital Communication

March 18, 2015 | 0 Comments

The secret of good fellowship in marriage lies in two people applying the principle embodied in this verse: And just as you want men to do to you, you also do to them likewise. Luke 6:31 Here is a workable formula. And amazingly, it is easier to carry out than to try to figure out the other person and treat him accordingly. Scott and Ann found this out. Like practically everyone, each longed to be appreciated and have their viewpoint respected. They discovered that the rule Jesus gave is just as effective today as when He spoke it. Scott sought counsel because he was puzzled over his unhappy marriage. He and Ann, his wife, never exchanged harsh words. He kept his complaints against her to himself. He had looked at her personality and her idiosyncrasies from all angles and tried to do what would bring a balance between them. They never argued. But with all their efforts at adjustment, there was little happiness. Their approach did not work because they simply could not figure each other out. Adjustments based on this faulty approach were bound to fail. To do unto others as you would have them do to you is […] Read More

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