Biblical Counseling

Your Wedding Ceremony

February 29, 2016 | 1 Comment

Remember your wedding ceremony? The vows were like this: “Dearly beloved, we are gathered together in the sight of God…” Marriage is God’s idea. Remember His words? And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:18 Then you declared your intentions toward each other: “Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her…in sickness and in health; and forsaking all others, keep thee only unto her so long as you both shall live…? I…take you…to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part…” That ceremony suggests that: You are ready to start with each other as you are, not pending reform. You will love and respect each other in spite of your shortcomings. You will continue to work for the success of the marriage. Disagreements are normal and expected, but you keep working toward a meeting of minds. This is an exclusive relationship. “Forsaking all others,” the marriage comes first. “‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and […] Read More

The Beginning of Marriage

August 5, 2015 | 1 Comment

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Philippians 2:3 “I want to be a better partner.” You say this, thinking back over a multitude of incidents that make up the history of your family. Some of them were funny when they happened; others are funny only as we look back on them. Still others were gravely serious. Some were puzzling. There are months on end when husband and wife get along beautifully; and then, out of the clear blue sky, there are frequent disagreements. Then, just as mysteriously, things clear up. This is the ebb and flow, the fascination, the never-ending variety, the multitude of moods that make up family living. How can we do our part better? Seldom, if ever, do the circumstances of living together transform the two people of a marriage into an ever-loving, ever-agreeable, happy pair–fairy tales, popular love songs, and a gamble of fate notwithstanding. A happy marriage involves a much greater challenge than simply finding a partner with whom you live happily ever after. It is more than some strange chemistry that draws and holds you together forever. Soon after the […] Read More

What is the Difference Between the Indwelling of the Spirit and Being Filled by the Spirit?

May 20, 2015 | 3 Comments

Truly it is impossible to live the Christian life in your own human strength. The Christian life depends upon the work of the Holy Spirit in the life of a believer. With that in mind, what is the difference between the indwelling of the Holy Spirit and being filled with the Spirit? What Does Indwelling Mean? This indwelling occurs when we first believe. It does not occur twenty years later but rather when you are born again. (Rom. 5:5, 2 Tim. 2:4) The indwelling of the Holy Spirit occurs one time. It is once for all. When Jesus Christ comes into your life as your Lord and Savior, His Spirit takes up permanent residence in you. The indwelling of the Holy Spirit is for all believers. Simply claiming to be a Christian does not necessarily mean you are a Christian (Matt. 7:21). Believers are not commanded to be indwelt or possessed by the Holy Spirit, born-again people are possessed by the Holy Spirit. The indwelling does not indicate direction in life but position in life. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and […] Read More

Peace and Satisfaction In This World?

April 1, 2015 | 0 Comments

Why are Christians not in the least embarrassed over the absence of peace and rest in their lives? Jesus clearly tells us that it is His intention for us to move through this world peacefully and cheerfully, untroubled and unafraid as long as we look to Him to enable us. With such a resource readily available, I am overwhelmed by the absence of personal peace and by the level of misery under which Christians are willing to live. They don’t seem the least bit embarrassed or hesitant to declare: • “I’m under stress.” • “I’m worried.” • “I’m so unhappy.” • “I’m afraid.” • “I’m pretty anxious.” • “I’m angry!” • “I can’t get along with him (her).” Yet, Jesus gives clear direction when it comes to the issue of peace. Peace I leave with you, My peace I give to you; not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, neither let it be afraid.  John 14:27 Christians often accept the word of secular mental health people who tell us that such conditions are socially and culturally caused and relief is to be found in the world. They are correct. Jesus Himself […] Read More

Is it Time for a Spiritual Check Up?

October 9, 2013 | 0 Comments

Few people get to see what you see in the mirror, and no one gets to see what goes on underneath your skin except God. The Bible says: “Man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7). If the Lord looks on the heart, then it follows that a checkup of your heart is more critical than an examination of your physical appearance. I don’t like checkups. I usually have a feeling of uneasiness and uncertainty that something bad will come up that I don’t know about. When a physician checks your body, he is alert to discover anything that needs correcting. Heart searching can be as uncomfortable as a physical checkup. But if God looks upon the heart, one needs to be sure of His approval. The psalmist said: “Search me, O God, and know my heart; try me, and know my anxieties; and see if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting” (Psalm 139:23-24). God desires a deep abiding relationship with you. Take a few moments today to look at the attached chart as a mirror to your soul. God will help you with […] Read More

The Law of Sin

June 26, 2013 | 0 Comments

But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members. (Romans 7:23 NKJV) The Bible is the source of knowledge yet most people who are having so much trouble with sin don’t read the book that tells them how to deal with it. People always want to do better—at least that’s what they say. “I want my marriage to be better. I want to be a better parent.” But isn’t it amazing how most are unable to “be” what they want to be. Many people say, “I have everything I always wanted and I’m doing everything right!” But the same repetitive questions remain: Why am I restless? Why am I disturbed? Why am I anxious? Why am I worried? Why am I nervous? Why am I tense? Why am I unhappy? Why am I under stress? Why do I hurt? Why am I uncomfortable? The work of righteousness will be peace, And the effect of righteousness, quietness and assurance forever. (Isaiah 32:17 NKJV) Many say, “If it weren’t for people I would be a great individual!” There is a reason […] Read More

God’s Path Is Safe

October 10, 2012 | 1 Comment

My eyes are ever toward the LORD, for He shall pluck my feet out of the net. Psalm 25:15 Imagine walking through the forest along a path that is not well defined. Concern for staying on the path would be your focus, lest you step into a hole or become disoriented and lost. If you knew that there were many animal traps set, it would make you even more alert and cautious. Knowing this, instead of taking a relaxing walk, your concern would be to scope out the area and make sure that you avoid those traps! Learning to scope out and avoid traps can be quite exhausting. Your mind, emotions, and physical skills become highly alert, knowing you can still miss a trap and become ensnared. Satan has set many traps for God’s people. His traps tend to be highly camouflaged. How do we avoid these traps? Do we avoid them by consciously and carefully watching for each trap? If so, then the whole of your Christian life would be on the defensive. This passage reveals that if we keep our eyes always toward the Lord, then we will always be on a path that avoids traps. Our salvation is not […] Read More

Five Steps in the Process of Repentance

December 20, 2010 | 0 Comments

Step One in the Process of Repentance: “God, I am wrong.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 3 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 55-70) Step Two in the Process of Repentance: “God, I am sorry for my sin.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 4 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 71-96) Step Three in the Process of Repentance: “God, please forgive my sin.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 5 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 97-114) Step Four in the Process of Repentance: “God, cleanse me.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 6 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 115-134) Step Five in the Process of Repentance: “God, empower me.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 7 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 135-158) From: The Joy of Repentance by Kerry L. Skinner (KLS LifeChange Publishers ©2006, 251.610.8540) Download PDF

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InnerChange Freedom Initiative

December 20, 2010 | 0 Comments

Henry Brandt and Kerry L. Skinner White Paper “Repentance is replete with radical implications for a fundamental change of mind not only turns us from the sinful past, but transforms our life plan, values, ethics, and actions as we begin to see the world through God’s eyes rather than ours. That kind of transformation requires the ultimate surrender of self.” (Colson, Loving God, 109) IFI Freedom Initiative: A Christian Prison Community IFI Freedom Initiative (IFI) is a Biblically-based, Christ-centered 24-hour a day prison model that originated in South America. The first such United States prison program opened in Texas in April of 1997 through the cooperation of Prison Fellowship Ministries and the Texas Department of Criminal Justice. It holds great promise for prisons throughout America and the world. This paper outlines the philosophy and underlying principles of the IFI Freedom Initiative. The program is very different from many other rehabilitative programs that have come before. On the surface, IFI may look like a type of therapeutic community. Both therapeutic and transformational prison programs operate through small groups and seek to equip members for life after prison. A therapeutic model is dependent on the interpretation of life through man’s eyes and […] Read More

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