Biblical Counseling

When God’s Strength Becomes Our Strength

September 26, 2016 | 0 Comments

God’s strength needs to become our strength. But, when do you need that happen? One of the most common times of seeing your weakness is when you try to love somebody you do not like! It is hard to do. You can try. You can do good things for people you do not like. By doing good things for people you do not like you may confuse your human ability to act with the empowerment of God’s Spirit and think you are loving them. There is no place in Scripture where God says He will empower you to use your human abilities to love people. That is not what God does. He empowers us with His Spirit. Ephesians 5:18 states, “And do not be drunk with wine, in which is dissipation; but be filled with the Spirit….” When you were born again, the Holy Spirit came to live in you. Jesus said, “But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit–the Father will send Him in My name–will teach you all things and remind you of everything I have told you” (Jn. 14:26, HCSB). All the resources of God are available to a repentant heart. Paul states, “But the fruit of the Spirit is […] Read More

Openness or Honesty, Are They The Same?

August 22, 2016 | 2 Comments

The Best Policy Openness or honesty, which is the best! That may be determined by the situation and the timing of the information. Openness is not necessarily the same as honesty. Others believe that honesty is the best policy, but I think God would rather us be honest, not because it is the best policy, but because we are honest people! Some people believe if they know something they must reveal it to everyone in order to be honest. Thinking about the truth in your heart is not the same as telling everyone everything you know! Just because you know something in your mind, does not mean it is public information. Some live as though they are not honest if they do not tell everything they know. Personally, I am glad that everyone does not know what everyone else is thinking! Can you imagine walking around all week with a video screen attached to your brain that showed everyone what you were thinking? I don’t think too many people would leave their home! If everyone saw everything God sees, there would be a much higher crime rate! If you walk in the Spirit with honesty, integrity of heart, uprightness, and truthfulness–what […] Read More

It Is Positive to Deal with the Negative

August 15, 2016 | 0 Comments

So why is it positive to deal with the negative? Consider the physician. As he diagnoses you, he has only one basic question: “What’s wrong?” This is certainly a “negative” approach! If 99% of your body is in good health, your doctor is interested in only the 1% of your body that is not. If you have an infected fingernail and the rest of your body is healthy, he concentrates on the fingernail. If you have a pain in your abdomen, he does not overlook the abdomen. Instead he examines it thoroughly, even if the examination brings you pain. Why do you put up with such treatment? Because his objective is to restore your health. He eliminates pain and may save you from death by subjecting you to great pain and even the risk of your life on the operating table. It is positive to eliminate the negative. It is healthy to eliminate disease. It is good to eliminate evil. A neighbor in apparent good health went to her physician because she developed a slight pain. Investigation revealed a tumor and abdominal surgery was called for. The doctor’s announcement of what was needed not only upset the woman, but her […] Read More

Spirit vs Sin Living

July 16, 2016 | 0 Comments

I have used this Spirit chart for years to stay up-to-date with God! Can It Really Help? For years God has used this simple chart to help believers use the truth of God’s Word to reveal the condition of their spirit. Thousands have used this in their daily walk with God to keep them on target and up to date in their relationship with God. This chart (downloadable by clicking here) groups the sins against God into four categories in order to understand them. The more you study these lists, the more excited you will become! Why? Because you will discover that if you can eliminate your sins, you can solve most of your own problems and most of the ills of society, including the breakdown of the family, domestic violence, child abuse, rape, murder, violence, political deception, and personal misery. This chart is based on Mark 7:21-23, Romans 1:28-31, Galatians 5:19-21, Ephesians 4:25-31, and 2 Timothy 3:1-5. Find more details in “The Heart of the Problem” book resource Evil thoughts, lust, and covetousness can lead to premarital sex and adultery. Lying, backbiting, quarreling, anger, and rebellion can lead to brutal violent behavior and even murder. Clearly someone with a […] Read More

Your Wedding Ceremony

February 29, 2016 | 1 Comment

Remember your wedding ceremony? The vows were like this: “Dearly beloved, we are gathered together in the sight of God…” Marriage is God’s idea. Remember His words? And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:18 Then you declared your intentions toward each other: “Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her…in sickness and in health; and forsaking all others, keep thee only unto her so long as you both shall live…? I…take you…to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part…” That ceremony suggests that: You are ready to start with each other as you are, not pending reform. You will love and respect each other in spite of your shortcomings. You will continue to work for the success of the marriage. Disagreements are normal and expected, but you keep working toward a meeting of minds. This is an exclusive relationship. “Forsaking all others,” the marriage comes first. “‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and […] Read More

Is it Time for a Spiritual Check Up?

October 9, 2013 | 0 Comments

Few people get to see what you see in the mirror, and no one gets to see what goes on underneath your skin except God. The Bible says: “Man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7). If the Lord looks on the heart, then it follows that a checkup of your heart is more critical than an examination of your physical appearance. I don’t like checkups. I usually have a feeling of uneasiness and uncertainty that something bad will come up that I don’t know about. When a physician checks your body, he is alert to discover anything that needs correcting. Heart searching can be as uncomfortable as a physical checkup. But if God looks upon the heart, one needs to be sure of His approval. The psalmist said: “Search me, O God, and know my heart; try me, and know my anxieties; and see if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting” (Psalm 139:23-24). God desires a deep abiding relationship with you. Take a few moments today to look at the attached chart as a mirror to your soul. God will help you with […] Read More

The Law of Sin

June 26, 2013 | 0 Comments

But I see another law in my members, warring against the law of my mind, and bringing me into captivity to the law of sin which is in my members. (Romans 7:23 NKJV) The Bible is the source of knowledge yet most people who are having so much trouble with sin don’t read the book that tells them how to deal with it. People always want to do better—at least that’s what they say. “I want my marriage to be better. I want to be a better parent.” But isn’t it amazing how most are unable to “be” what they want to be. Many people say, “I have everything I always wanted and I’m doing everything right!” But the same repetitive questions remain: Why am I restless? Why am I disturbed? Why am I anxious? Why am I worried? Why am I nervous? Why am I tense? Why am I unhappy? Why am I under stress? Why do I hurt? Why am I uncomfortable? The work of righteousness will be peace, And the effect of righteousness, quietness and assurance forever. (Isaiah 32:17 NKJV) Many say, “If it weren’t for people I would be a great individual!” There is a reason […] Read More

Five Steps in the Process of Repentance

December 20, 2010 | 0 Comments

Step One in the Process of Repentance: “God, I am wrong.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 3 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 55-70) Step Two in the Process of Repentance: “God, I am sorry for my sin.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 4 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 71-96) Step Three in the Process of Repentance: “God, please forgive my sin.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 5 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 97-114) Step Four in the Process of Repentance: “God, cleanse me.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 6 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 115-134) Step Five in the Process of Repentance: “God, empower me.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 7 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 135-158) From: The Joy of Repentance by Kerry L. Skinner (KLS LifeChange Publishers ©2006, 251.610.8540) Download PDF

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InnerChange Freedom Initiative

December 20, 2010 | 0 Comments

Henry Brandt and Kerry L. Skinner White Paper “Repentance is replete with radical implications for a fundamental change of mind not only turns us from the sinful past, but transforms our life plan, values, ethics, and actions as we begin to see the world through God’s eyes rather than ours. That kind of transformation requires the ultimate surrender of self.” (Colson, Loving God, 109) IFI Freedom Initiative: A Christian Prison Community IFI Freedom Initiative (IFI) is a Biblically-based, Christ-centered 24-hour a day prison model that originated in South America. The first such United States prison program opened in Texas in April of 1997 through the cooperation of Prison Fellowship Ministries and the Texas Department of Criminal Justice. It holds great promise for prisons throughout America and the world. This paper outlines the philosophy and underlying principles of the IFI Freedom Initiative. The program is very different from many other rehabilitative programs that have come before. On the surface, IFI may look like a type of therapeutic community. Both therapeutic and transformational prison programs operate through small groups and seek to equip members for life after prison. A therapeutic model is dependent on the interpretation of life through man’s eyes and […] Read More

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