Biblical Counseling

What is My Problem?

May 1, 2017 | 0 Comments

What is my problem? I hear this question asked over and over by sincere people looking for solutions to difficulties in life. Most often the issue is about overcoming anxiety, stress, and frustration. Let’s first set the context by considering this passage from Proverbs: Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and depart from evil. It will be health to your flesh, and strength to your bones. (Prov. 3:7-8). One of our responsibilities as Christians is to be witnesses to weary travelers who are trying to use human resources to deal with sin. The collapse of family life and the escalation of dishonesty, stealing, violence, crime, physical and sexual abuse speaks for itself. Our world needs a good dose of love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Solutions Many in our day wonder whether their problem can be solved by spending time in the solitude of some peaceful place or whether they must see their doctor for medical help. Christian’s minds are confused by the constant magazine articles, newspaper clippings, and news reports that claim a cure to the monotony of life. They wonder whether their problem is physical, emotional, or spiritual. Where […] Read More

A Gentle Spirit

April 10, 2017 | 0 Comments

A gentile spirit is not often observed in our day. Many have harsh spirits displayed openly to all. Do you have a long or a short fuse? It is rare that a person remains gentle every hour of every day. When a believer is harsh and disgruntled it is not because the fruit of the Spirit is not available–it is because he/she is walking in the flesh. You can either walk in the Spirit or walk in the flesh, but you cannot do both at the same time. Have you ever been to Disney World? It is proclaimed as the happiest place on earth! My wife and I were visiting there and observed many families. They were supposed to be happy in this happiest place on earth. While watching those families we discovered that not everyone was happy. Many of them had short fuses. Their wonderful environment did not seem to have a positive effect on their negative spirit. Obvious problems in the visiting families of the happiest place on earth needed to be addressed. Yet, to address a problem does not mean it is a painless experience. Suppose I have a splinter in my hand and I ask you […] Read More

Who Knows the Truth?

April 3, 2017 | 0 Comments

Who knows the truth anyway? How can one determine truth based on information that comes from many different sources? This is a valid question to ask, particularly in 2017! If sin is the problem then proper knowledge of it and how to deal with it is absolutely critical. In 1973, Dr. Carl Menninger wrote a book entitled Whatever Became of Sin? In it he noted that in 1953 (20 years before he wrote the book) President Eisenhower quoted Lincoln as part of his declaration of a day of prayer: It is the duty of nations, as well as of men to own their independence upon the overruling power of God, to confess their sins and transgressions in humble, sorrow, yet with assured hope that genuine repentance will lead to mercy and pardon. Dr. Menninger emphasizes that for the next 20 years presidential declarations have eliminated reference to sin. As a nation, he said, we officially stopped sinning after that declaration. Menninger offers a reasonable explanation for people leaving “sin” out of their vocabulary. At the turn of the century the use of the scientific method led to new theories of behavior and learning. Here are a few of them: Messner demonstrated […] Read More

What Is My Problem?

January 2, 2017 | 0 Comments

“What is my problem? Why can’t I change to be better? I need help! If I could just find out what the issue is, then I would know what to do to get better!” Ever had these questions and thoughts? All of us need a refresher on this subject. In fact, this article is essential reading for anyone who is serious about overcoming anxiety, stress, and frustration. Let’s first set the context by considering this passage from Proverbs: Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and depart from evil. It will be health to your flesh, and strength to your bones. (Proverbs 3:7-8) One of our responsibilities as Christians is to be witnesses to weary travelers who are trying to use human resources to deal with sin. The collapse of family life and the escalation of dishonesty, stealing, violence, crime, physical and sexual abuse speaks for itself. Our world needs a good dose of love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Who Can I Turn Too? Many in our day wonder whether their problem can be solved by spending time in the solitude of some peaceful place or whether they must see their doctor […] Read More

We Need You!

October 24, 2016 | 0 Comments

Needed Whether You Believe It Or Not Maybe you don’t feel needed, but we need you! Christians are a part of the body of Christ–His church! If you are a part of Christ then there are believers who really do need you! Our culture has taught us to be independent. Many who are experiencing success in their lives feel no need for others. But, the Bible reveals that Christians should be interdependent–not independent of one another. Read this: …but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head–Christ from whom the whole body, joined and knit together by what every joint supplies, according to the effective working by which every part does its share, causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love. Ephesians 4:15-16 I Needed My Friends Final exams just before graduating from college had just been completed. A group of my friends and I rejoiced that we were finally finished with the university experience and were all going into full-time ministry. We went to the gym to play basketball and work off the tension and stress of finals. I discovered there is a way to rebound a basketball […] Read More

Your Wedding Ceremony

February 29, 2016 | 1 Comment

Remember your wedding ceremony? The vows were like this: “Dearly beloved, we are gathered together in the sight of God…” Marriage is God’s idea. Remember His words? And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:18 Then you declared your intentions toward each other: “Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her…in sickness and in health; and forsaking all others, keep thee only unto her so long as you both shall live…? I…take you…to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part…” That ceremony suggests that: You are ready to start with each other as you are, not pending reform. You will love and respect each other in spite of your shortcomings. You will continue to work for the success of the marriage. Disagreements are normal and expected, but you keep working toward a meeting of minds. This is an exclusive relationship. “Forsaking all others,” the marriage comes first. “‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and […] Read More

Is it Time for a Spiritual Check Up?

October 9, 2013 | 0 Comments

Few people get to see what you see in the mirror, and no one gets to see what goes on underneath your skin except God. The Bible says: “Man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7). If the Lord looks on the heart, then it follows that a checkup of your heart is more critical than an examination of your physical appearance. I don’t like checkups. I usually have a feeling of uneasiness and uncertainty that something bad will come up that I don’t know about. When a physician checks your body, he is alert to discover anything that needs correcting. Heart searching can be as uncomfortable as a physical checkup. But if God looks upon the heart, one needs to be sure of His approval. The psalmist said: “Search me, O God, and know my heart; try me, and know my anxieties; and see if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting” (Psalm 139:23-24). God desires a deep abiding relationship with you. Take a few moments today to look at the attached chart as a mirror to your soul. God will help you with […] Read More

Five Steps in the Process of Repentance

December 20, 2010 | 0 Comments

Step One in the Process of Repentance: “God, I am wrong.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 3 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 55-70) Step Two in the Process of Repentance: “God, I am sorry for my sin.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 4 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 71-96) Step Three in the Process of Repentance: “God, please forgive my sin.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 5 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 97-114) Step Four in the Process of Repentance: “God, cleanse me.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 6 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 115-134) Step Five in the Process of Repentance: “God, empower me.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 7 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 135-158) From: The Joy of Repentance by Kerry L. Skinner (KLS LifeChange Publishers ©2006, 251.610.8540) Download PDF

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InnerChange Freedom Initiative

December 20, 2010 | 0 Comments

Henry Brandt and Kerry L. Skinner White Paper “Repentance is replete with radical implications for a fundamental change of mind not only turns us from the sinful past, but transforms our life plan, values, ethics, and actions as we begin to see the world through God’s eyes rather than ours. That kind of transformation requires the ultimate surrender of self.” (Colson, Loving God, 109) IFI Freedom Initiative: A Christian Prison Community IFI Freedom Initiative (IFI) is a Biblically-based, Christ-centered 24-hour a day prison model that originated in South America. The first such United States prison program opened in Texas in April of 1997 through the cooperation of Prison Fellowship Ministries and the Texas Department of Criminal Justice. It holds great promise for prisons throughout America and the world. This paper outlines the philosophy and underlying principles of the IFI Freedom Initiative. The program is very different from many other rehabilitative programs that have come before. On the surface, IFI may look like a type of therapeutic community. Both therapeutic and transformational prison programs operate through small groups and seek to equip members for life after prison. A therapeutic model is dependent on the interpretation of life through man’s eyes and […] Read More

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