Biblical Counseling

How Can I Help Others?

June 26, 2017 | 0 Comments

How can I help others? Do I really have enough influence? No matter what you do, whether you work inside or outside the home, are a stay at home mom, or retired, you influence other people. Many times through life you encounter others who are looking for help. A friend, neighbor, work associate, or family member will eventually approach you and share a deep concern, trial, or challenge they are facing. When they do, are you ready to help? Here are a few simple guidelines for preparing yourself to help others: Be compassionate To be effective in helping others, you must be a loving, compassionate person. You must love the person enough to present the truth to this person, regardless of what the truth may suggest for him/her. When the rich young ruler came to Jesus and asked what he must do to inherit eternal life, “Then Jesus, looking at him, loved him, and said to him, “One thing you lack: Go your way, sell whatever you have and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, take up the cross, and follow Me” (Mark 10:21). Even though the truth was strong, and ultimately was […] Read More

Waiting on God

June 18, 2017 | 0 Comments

Waiting on God can be a refreshing or a frustrating time–according to how you face the moment! “But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength…”  Isaiah 40:31 (NKJV) Do you enjoy waiting in a long line to make a purchase? Of course not, you want to pay for your product and move on to the next task awaiting you. Spiritually, we sometimes have to stand in a long line, waiting our turn to receive our next assignment, virtue, correction, or instruction. But, waiting requires patience and patience requires perseverance and perseverance requires godliness. According to Scripture, when you wait on the Lord, you get stronger. The person who walks in a love relationship with God finds strength in waiting with Him. So much is learned about life during this meditative time. God has designed just the right amount of waiting time so that what happens in your life is exactly on His time table. This time of waiting is when you should GAIN strength, not lose strength! In Isaiah 40:31, the prophet says, “But those who wait on the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk […] Read More

Can You Live Up to Them?–Biblical Standards

May 29, 2017 | 2 Comments

Biblical Standards Can you live up to biblical standards? Of course in our own human strength we fall far short. But, think about the standards you hold and find out if they are your own personal standards or biblical standards. Here are some standard questions that biblical counselors ask people who come to see them. • Do you go to church regularly? • Do you read the Bible regularly? • Do you pray regularly? Many answer yes to all of these. What could be wrong? It is not what they prayed about; it is what they do not pray about. It is not what they read in the Bible; it is what they do not read in the Bible. The problem is not whether they attend church. It is whether they worship when they get there! If you read the Bible and pray every day–that you will keep out of trouble is not a valid assumption. These can be rituals. Two men went up to the temple to pray. One said, “God, look at me! Is it not wonderful that You have me?” The other one said, “God, be merciful to me a sinner!” They both went to the temple to […] Read More

Feelings Can Really Hurt!

May 15, 2017 | 1 Comment

Feelings can really hurt! I hear that statement often. But just what does that really mean? Autonomic Nervous System There are certain emotional centers in the brain that are linked to the entire body through the autonomic nervous system. This system can be compared to the wires that carry electricity from a main power source to all the outlets in your house. Charges of emotions are relayed from the brain, down the spinal cord, and through the autonomic nerves to the blood vessels, muscle tissues, mucous membranes, and skin. So when you are under emotional stress, all parts of your body can be subject to physical discomfort because of a change in blood nourishment, glandular function, or muscle tone. For example, a speaker who is about to be introduced before a crowd oftentimes is fearful over facing the audience. Suddenly his mouth will become dry. That’s because his blood vessels have constricted and glandular activity has reduced. When the fear goes away, the dryness will also go away. It has also been proven that emotional stress will increase the size of the blood vessels in your head; this, in turn, produces pain because of the stretching of the tissues around […] Read More

Who Knows the Truth?

April 3, 2017 | 0 Comments

Who knows the truth anyway? How can one determine truth based on information that comes from many different sources? This is a valid question to ask, particularly in 2017! If sin is the problem then proper knowledge of it and how to deal with it is absolutely critical. In 1973, Dr. Carl Menninger wrote a book entitled Whatever Became of Sin? In it he noted that in 1953 (20 years before he wrote the book) President Eisenhower quoted Lincoln as part of his declaration of a day of prayer: It is the duty of nations, as well as of men to own their independence upon the overruling power of God, to confess their sins and transgressions in humble, sorrow, yet with assured hope that genuine repentance will lead to mercy and pardon. Dr. Menninger emphasizes that for the next 20 years presidential declarations have eliminated reference to sin. As a nation, he said, we officially stopped sinning after that declaration. Menninger offers a reasonable explanation for people leaving “sin” out of their vocabulary. At the turn of the century the use of the scientific method led to new theories of behavior and learning. Here are a few of them: Messner demonstrated […] Read More

Your Wedding Ceremony

February 29, 2016 | 1 Comment

Remember your wedding ceremony? The vows were like this: “Dearly beloved, we are gathered together in the sight of God…” Marriage is God’s idea. Remember His words? And the Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:18 Then you declared your intentions toward each other: “Will you love her, comfort her, honor and keep her…in sickness and in health; and forsaking all others, keep thee only unto her so long as you both shall live…? I…take you…to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death us do part…” That ceremony suggests that: You are ready to start with each other as you are, not pending reform. You will love and respect each other in spite of your shortcomings. You will continue to work for the success of the marriage. Disagreements are normal and expected, but you keep working toward a meeting of minds. This is an exclusive relationship. “Forsaking all others,” the marriage comes first. “‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and […] Read More

Is it Time for a Spiritual Check Up?

October 9, 2013 | 0 Comments

Few people get to see what you see in the mirror, and no one gets to see what goes on underneath your skin except God. The Bible says: “Man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7). If the Lord looks on the heart, then it follows that a checkup of your heart is more critical than an examination of your physical appearance. I don’t like checkups. I usually have a feeling of uneasiness and uncertainty that something bad will come up that I don’t know about. When a physician checks your body, he is alert to discover anything that needs correcting. Heart searching can be as uncomfortable as a physical checkup. But if God looks upon the heart, one needs to be sure of His approval. The psalmist said: “Search me, O God, and know my heart; try me, and know my anxieties; and see if there is any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting” (Psalm 139:23-24). God desires a deep abiding relationship with you. Take a few moments today to look at the attached chart as a mirror to your soul. God will help you with […] Read More

Five Steps in the Process of Repentance

December 20, 2010 | 0 Comments

Step One in the Process of Repentance: “God, I am wrong.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 3 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 55-70) Step Two in the Process of Repentance: “God, I am sorry for my sin.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 4 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 71-96) Step Three in the Process of Repentance: “God, please forgive my sin.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 5 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 97-114) Step Four in the Process of Repentance: “God, cleanse me.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 6 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 115-134) Step Five in the Process of Repentance: “God, empower me.” Detailed Explanation and Scriptures Found in Chapter 7 of The Joy of Repentance (pp. 135-158) From: The Joy of Repentance by Kerry L. Skinner (KLS LifeChange Publishers ©2006, 251.610.8540) Download PDF

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InnerChange Freedom Initiative

December 20, 2010 | 0 Comments

Henry Brandt and Kerry L. Skinner White Paper “Repentance is replete with radical implications for a fundamental change of mind not only turns us from the sinful past, but transforms our life plan, values, ethics, and actions as we begin to see the world through God’s eyes rather than ours. That kind of transformation requires the ultimate surrender of self.” (Colson, Loving God, 109) IFI Freedom Initiative: A Christian Prison Community IFI Freedom Initiative (IFI) is a Biblically-based, Christ-centered 24-hour a day prison model that originated in South America. The first such United States prison program opened in Texas in April of 1997 through the cooperation of Prison Fellowship Ministries and the Texas Department of Criminal Justice. It holds great promise for prisons throughout America and the world. This paper outlines the philosophy and underlying principles of the IFI Freedom Initiative. The program is very different from many other rehabilitative programs that have come before. On the surface, IFI may look like a type of therapeutic community. Both therapeutic and transformational prison programs operate through small groups and seek to equip members for life after prison. A therapeutic model is dependent on the interpretation of life through man’s eyes and […] Read More

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