Biblical Counseling

Reactions to Correction

April 29, 2019 | 1 Comment

Reaction: Good or Bad Reactions to correction are obvious–good or bad, the reaction will come when corrected. What is your reaction when a person says, to you, “I’m going to be very frank with you.” It is doubtful that your response is to say, “Let me pull up a chair–I can’t wait to hear this!” Most likely, we shout for joy when they leave, yet what they said may have troubled our Spirit. All the joy seems to drain from us after those kinds of conversations. A word of correction or disagreement can seemingly rob us of anything positive that will happen the rest of the day, week, or month! Generally, if your spirit is negative, your reaction will be defensive. Much like your physical body wants to fight or flee a dangerous situation, your spirit will tend to also either fight or flee. Your flesh riles up ready to receive a blow when someone says, “Let me be frank with you,” even though you do not know what they are about to say. Compliments however, bring a positive response. Your spirit responds cheerfully when someone says something to compliment your appearance, words, actions, or achievements. In fact, if they […] Read More

Spirit vs Sin Living

April 22, 2019 | 0 Comments

I have used this Spirit chart for years to stay up-to-date with God! Can It Really Help? For years God has used this simple chart to help believers use the truth of God’s Word to reveal the condition of their spirit. Thousands have used this in their daily walk with God to keep them on target and up to date in their relationship with God. This chart (downloadable by clicking here) groups the sins against God into four categories in order to understand them. The more you study these lists, the more excited you will become! Why? Because you will discover that if you can eliminate your sins, you can solve most of your own problems and most of the ills of society, including the breakdown of the family, domestic violence, child abuse, rape, murder, violence, political deception, and personal misery. This chart is based on Mark 7:21-23, Romans 1:28-31, Galatians 5:19-21, Ephesians 4:25-31, and 2 Timothy 3:1-5. Find more details in “The Heart of the Problem” book resource Evil thoughts, lust, and covetousness can lead to premarital sex and adultery. Lying, backbiting, quarreling, anger, and rebellion can lead to brutal violent behavior and even murder. Clearly someone with a […] Read More

Worldly vs. Godly Sorrow

April 15, 2019 | 0 Comments

Worldly sorrow is unmistakably different than godly sorrow. Is it possible for you to say, “I am sorry,” but not mean it? Yes. What kind of sorrow is that? It is worldly sorrow, not godly sorrow. This type of sorrow has no intention of producing change, it is simply sorry that a situation exists, or sorry that the situation is bringing grief to life. Worldly Sorrow If you get into an argument with your boss and say some things you should not say, you know that the situation must be made right. When you get home after work and cool off, your thinking becomes clearer and you realize that you must apologize when you go back to work. An apology is needed to save your job. Apologizing to your boss and your boss accepting your apology is necessary but you do not have to mean what you say, you just have to say it. People are accustomed to saying, “I am sorry” yet not have any seriousness behind their apology. This is not godly sorrow but rather deception. It is absolutely possible to say, “I am sorry” and not mean it. Paul taught the Corinthian believers to distinguish the difference […] Read More

Right Choices: Discretion

April 8, 2019 | 1 Comment

Developing Discretion Right choices begin with right thinking! It is not enough to hope that you are making the right choice, you must base your decisions on right information. And most of all, your timing must be right! When wisdom enters your heart, and knowledge is pleasant to your soul, discretion will preserve you;  Understanding will keep you… Proverbs 2:10-11 Discretion is not something you can determine that you will develop just because you think you can act intelligent and all knowing. Godly discretion comes from God, not from human ingenuity. You cannot in and of yourself determine to be discreet in everything you do. Your human wisdom will not sustain you through an entire week of life without making an error in judgment. Timing is often more important than time! As you walk in the Spirit and you are filled with the fruit of His Spirit, then you are able by God’s Spirit to communicate from a sincere heart the right thing at the right time. Guiding Thoughts First, discretion is the ability to know the right action for each occasion. But, how would you know the right action to take every time? You won’t! God, however, is not confused about […] Read More

Kindness Refreshes the Soul

April 2, 2019 | 1 Comment

Kindness refreshes the soul, unkindness poisons the spirit. How’s your Spirit? Is it sweet or sour? How’s your temper? Do you have a temper? Do you quickly respond to things around you with a sourness? Do situations like, heavy traffic, try your spirit? You know what I mean, when somebody does the wrong thing and you start steaming within? You’re wanting to honk your horn at those people and you can’t find it on the steering wheel? You nearly beat that steering wheel to death trying to find the horn. And things just fly off the handle quickly with you. Or how about, going to Walmart or Target. Maybe you are in a hurry and you grab two items. You go up to the check out and get in the line that says 10 items or less. You know that you’re not in the right spirit when you start counting the items in everybody’s basket that are in front of you. Sure enough there’s someone, they have 15! If they’re in this line they’re only supposed to have 10! And you’re thinking, I wonder if I could have them arrested for this. Just that little wrong action of those people breaking […] Read More

Hindrances To Self-Discovery

March 25, 2019 | 0 Comments

Self-discovery can be a wonderful process to personal peace if you have the right perspective. Two simple steps will begin the process: 1. The first step toward peace is to discover yourself and 2. The second is to square up with the truth you find. You will get fleeting glimpses of your true self (and sometimes a very clear picture) as you interact with other people, as you read the Bible, and as others minister to you. Yet the average person usually resists facing up to his faults. Quite likely he will reject anyone who points out his error. Jesus Christ gave the precise explanation for this reaction when He said, “For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed. John 3:20 We possess a natural dislike for rebuke. We have a built-in resistance to seeing our shortcomings. We react to reproof as we react to pain. The tendency is to shrink away, to protect ourselves from what we wish were not so. Studying the Bible is a sure way to get at the truth about yourself, but it takes some effort, and no one can force you to […] Read More

Biblical Counseling Distinctives

March 18, 2019 | 0 Comments

What makes Biblical counseling distinct? Is it because a Christian is the one providing the counseling? Or maybe it is defined by the Biblical truth from God’s Word. Let’s look into the distinctives are learn. There are several instances when the approach of a biblical counselor and a humanist would be the same. Personnel selection is an example. The counselor must make a judgment on how the applicant will respond to the demands of a position. He studies the application form, autobiography, work history, and the interview. Based on this data, the skilled counselor can produce a reasonably accurate description of the applicant and how he will respond to his environment. The humanist and the biblical counselor can work side by side to this point; then we come to a fork in the road. Many ask what the similarities are between biblical counseling and secular counseling. Examining the uniqueness of biblical counseling can help us see how God deals with the difficulties of human life versus how man deals with the problems of life. The Scripture makes it plain that human happiness or misery is not based on our circumstances or the people in our lives, but on which spirit controls us from […] Read More

A Medical Doctor’s Perspective on Sin

March 11, 2019 | 0 Comments

Psychosomatic Illness Dr. Henry Brandt shares this story from his life about his medical doctor friend: Dr. S.I. McMillen, a much-respected and loved physician, taught the college Sunday-school class at the church we attended. He gave a series of lectures on how certain thoughts and feelings can cause pain in many parts of the body. Dr. McMillen used some visual aids and pamphlets authored by Dr. O. Spurgeon English of Temple Medical School and sponsored by Sandoz Pharmaceuticals to illustrate his lessons. Up to this time, I had always assumed that pain meant something was wrong with the body and that a physician would know how to fix it. The proper choice of pills or an injection will hopefully do the job. It simply never occurred to me that thoughts and feelings could affect the body. Dr. McMillen introduced me to a new term, “psychosomatic,” which has to do with a physical disorder caused by or noticeably influenced by the emotional state of the patient. In our book, Breaking Free from the Bondage of Sin, Dr. Brandt goes on to share: Dr. S.I. McMillen spent many years studying Jewish and Christian writings in search of biblical principles and directions for living. […] Read More

The Faithfulness of God

March 3, 2019 | 0 Comments

God’s faithfulness is beyond measure, yet, the sad fact is that many miss out on recognizing the faithfulness of God. The faithfulness of God is the most consistent thing on earth! You might have thought the Old Faithful geyser At Yellowstone National Park was the most consistent thing on earth. After all, the geyser was named in 1870 and has been faithfully erupting every 91 minutes since its recorded history. Close to three million people visit Old Faithful each year just to see this most consistent geological happening in the world. How consistent is God’s faithfulness? The Scripture states: I will hear what God the LORD will speak, for He will speak peace to His people and to His saints; but let them not turn back to folly. Surely His salvation is near to those who fear Him, that glory may dwell in our land. Mercy and truth have met together; righteousness and peace have kissed. Truth shall spring out of the earth, and righteousness shall look down from heaven. Psalm 85:8-11, NKJV God’s faithfulness to the children of Israel is an incredible picture of righteousness. In the first three verses of this Psalm, the Lord had forgiven their sin and taken away the guilt […] Read More

The Beginning of Marriage

February 18, 2019 | 0 Comments

Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Philippians 2:3 “I want to be a better partner.” You say this, thinking back over a multitude of incidents that make up the history of your family. Some of them were funny when they happened; others are funny only as we look back on them. Still others were gravely serious. Some were puzzling. There are months on end when husband and wife get along beautifully; and then, out of the clear blue sky, there are frequent disagreements. Then, just as mysteriously, things clear up. This is the ebb and flow, the fascination, the never-ending variety, the multitude of moods that make up family living. How can we do our part better? Seldom, if ever, do the circumstances of living together transform the two people of a marriage into an ever-loving, ever-agreeable, happy pair–fairy tales, popular love songs, and a gamble of fate notwithstanding. A happy marriage involves a much greater challenge than simply finding a partner with whom you live happily ever after. It is more than some strange chemistry that draws and holds you together forever. Soon after the […] Read More

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