Biblical Counseling

The Heart of the Problem (part 4 of 5-Unforgiveness)

October 14, 2018 | 1 Comment

The Heart of the Problem is the Problem of the Heart! *This five-part series is an overview of The Heart of the Problem book/workbook. If you discover help in these articles, I encourage you to purchase the workbook at www.kerryskinner.com/books and go deeper in your discovery. For detailed training as a biblical counselor, see https://thinklifechange.com/our-program/ If the article is helpful to you, please forward it to your friends, or post it on facebook, linked in, or twitter. God bless you in your studies! Dealing with Unforgiveness Forgiveness is a major roadblock in personal relationships. If a person is in bondage to a particular sin, they may keep asking for forgiveness of a particular sin yet they never freed from the sin. Could it be because of an unforgiving spirit? Simon Peter was talking to Jesus and His disciples trying to show how spiritual he was. My paraphrase of Matthew 18:21 is, “Jesus, when it comes to the issue of someone offending us, how many times should we forgive them? Up to seven times?” Peter  thought he was being generous. He seemed to be showing off about how gracious he was and what a forgiving person he was. Jesus said, “No, Peter. Forgive an […] Read More

The Heart of the Problem (part 3 of 5)

October 8, 2018 | 0 Comments

The Heart of the Problem is the Problem of the Heart! *This five-part series is an overview of The Heart of the Problem book/workbook. If you discover help in these articles, I encourage you to purchase the workbook at www.kerryskinner.com/books and go deeper in your discovery. For detailed training as a biblical counselor, see https://thinklifechange.com/our-program/ If the article is helpful to you, please forward it to your friends, or post it on facebook, linked in, or twitter. God bless you in your studies! Using the Bible as a Mirror If the Lord looks at the heart, then it follows that a checkup of your soul should be more critical than an examination of your physical appearance. A checkup of the soul need not take longer than a checkup of one’s personal appearance. Regular checkups will serve you well if you correct what needs attention, but often we will go for weeks or months, or even years, without checking up on our hearts. When people come into my consulting room, I can see that they have taken time to look nice. However, what I talk about is the part of them you cannot see, the world of thoughts, feelings, and emotions underneath the skin. […] Read More

The Heart of the Problem (part 2-repentance)

October 1, 2018 | 0 Comments

The Heart of the Problem is the Problem of the Heart! *This five-part series is an overview of The Heart of the Problem book/workbook. If you discover help in these articles, I encourage you to purchase the workbook at www.kerryskinner.com/books and go deeper in your discovery. For detailed training as a biblical counselor, see https://thinklifechange.com/our-program/ If the article is helpful to you, please forward it to your friends, or post it on facebook, linked in, or twitter. God bless you in your studies! The Five Step Process Of Repentance Repentance is the most positive word in the Bible. Jesus began and ended His ministry teaching and preaching repentance. But how long does it take for a person to repent? How long does a process take? A process takes as long as it takes. Repentance doesn’t have to take a long time, rebellion does!” The Meaning of Repentance William Douglas Chamberlain, a man devoted to helping God’s people understand repentance, wrote a book entitled The Meaning of Repentance. He said, “Repentance does not bring the Kingdom; it prepares men to participate in it. Repentance is not a device for escaping hell; it is a preparation for co-operating with God’s will on earth.” If repentance […] Read More

The Heart of the Problem (part 1 of 5)

September 24, 2018 | 0 Comments

The Heart of the Problem is the Problem of the Heart! *This five-part series is an overview of The Heart of the Problem book/workbook. If you discover help in these articles, I encourage you to purchase the workbook at www.kerryskinner.com/books and go deeper in your discovery. For detailed training as a biblical counselor, see https://thinklifechange.com/our-program/ If the article is helpful to you, please forward it to your friends, or post it on facebook, linked in, or twitter. God bless you in your studies! The Problem of Sin The next five articles will focus on truths found in the book, “The Heart of the Problem.” Two words have almost disappeared from the vocabulary of Christians. One of those words is the word sin. The other word is repentance. Many churches and believers avoid talking about sin and repentance because they believe it is a negative subject. It seems as though our world thinks our problems come mostly from our environment. Another words, the things around us is our problem. It certainly could not be us–could it? Our world has taught us that the reason you are like you are is because of your background, the way you were raised, how your mom and dad […] Read More

The Bible Guides The Believer

September 17, 2018 | 0 Comments

The Bible guides the believer as God’s representative to others to reveal the truth of God. You may not consider yourself a biblical counselor as a career path but all believers are biblical counselors in daily life. Your specialty is a comprehensive knowledge of the Bible and absolute confidence that it is God’s sure guide for all people. When you preach, teach, or counsel, you stand straight and talk in the confidence that you are the custodian of the most important information in the world. You may look to other disciplines for help in perfecting your interview technique in counseling, developing your skill to listen objectively, or to learn how to help the individual tell his story. But your view of the nature and needs of people is to be drawn from and is to coincide with God and His Word. Definition of a Biblical Counselor What is a biblical counselor? A biblical counselor is any person (pastor, teacher, husband, wife, friend, etc.) who uses the Bible, the Word of God, as the foundation for sharing truth with a person who has “escaped the corruption that is in the world through lust” (2 Pet. 1:4). Why is it important to […] Read More

Overcoming Anxiety and Stress

September 10, 2018 | 0 Comments

Are you serious about overcoming anxiety, stress, and frustration? Consider this passage from Proverbs: Do not be wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord and depart from evil. It will be health to your flesh, and strength to your bones. Proverbs 3:7-8 One of our responsibilities as Christians is to be witnesses to weary travelers who are trying to use human resources to deal with sin. The collapse of family life and the escalation of dishonesty, stealing, violence, crime, physical and sexual abuse speaks for itself. Our world needs relief from anxiety through a good dose of love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Many in our day wonder whether their problem can be solved by spending time in the solitude of some peaceful place or whether they must see their doctor for medical help. Christian’s minds are confused by the constant magazine articles, newspaper clippings, and news reports that claim a cure to the monotony of life. They wonder whether their problem is physical, emotional anxiety, or spiritual. Where do they turn when everyone is claiming to have the answer? Am I depressed? Am I A.D.D.? Do I have a chemical imbalance? Why am I so […] Read More

Who Should Correct?

August 13, 2018 | 0 Comments

If correction is needed, what kind of person would you prefer to deliver the message? Would you rather it be a humble or arrogant person? Of course we want the humble person, don’t we? It is very difficult to respond positively to an arrogant person. A humble person is a much better choice for delivering a corrective message, but correction is still the issue. Think of a person you deeply respect. Maybe it is a parent, grandparent, teacher, former pastor, current pastor, a Bible study teacher, or maybe it is Billy Graham. Think about their walk with God. You trust they have a deep relationship with Christ. If that person should observe you doing something wrong this week and they approached you and said, “I heard what you said the other day and that wasn’t appropriate. You need to make that situation right.” How would you respond? Even if it is a person you deeply respect and they corrected you in humility, the truth still hurts. You may not like to hear what they said, but because of the Spirit in which it was shared, you hear it loud and clear. After thinking through what they said you still may […] Read More

False or Real Hope

July 30, 2018 | 1 Comment

Many are offering false hope to save our society. To the drunk, the world says it is not his fault; it is a disease or an addiction. He cannot control himself. Society must save him! Society says, “We want to help you. We have groups to support you. We will help you manage this problem.” Why does this reveal false hope? Because the same groups will say to the alcoholic, “You will always be an alcoholic. You will never get rid of this, but we can teach you how to manage it.” God is much more gracious than that! He offers a cure–Jesus. Looking back 50 years, we can evaluate the combined efforts of the medical, social, educational, governmental, legal, and theological professions. The combined impact on society has been negative. There are exceptions here and there, but in general, human misery has worsened. False or Real Hope We have listened to the message of this world so long that we can no longer distinguish the difference between false hope and the Word of God. What would God say in our day concerning alcoholism? In the New and Old Testament it is never referred to as alcoholism. It is never […] Read More

What’s Down In The Well Comes Up In The Bucket!

July 23, 2018 | 0 Comments

I remember my grandmother saying, “What’s down in the well comes up in the bucket! If the well has muddy water, then that is what you get, if it is clean spring water, then that is what comes up in the bucket.” What’s down in your inner self is what comes out when you are in conflict. When your values or beliefs are challenged or affirmed, you will discover what is “down in the bucket.” Your first response shows the condition of your heart, mind, and attitude at the time. There is much social pressure that requires you to look happy, to act as if you were happy, to be polite, and to do the acceptable thing. The Christian is concerned, not only with his tone of voice, but with what is in the inner self as well; not only with how he acts, but with how he feels. Jesus said, “What comes out of a man, that defiles a man. For from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, adulteries, fornications, murders, thefts, covetousness, wickedness, deceit, lewdness, an evil eye, blasphemy, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within and defile a man.” Mark 7:20-23 To illustrate, […] Read More

Repentance and Memory Lane

July 16, 2018 | 1 Comment

A spirit of repentance will encourage you to remember where you have come from in your spiritual life. While our memory is not always accurate, when you want to change from where you are to where God wants you to be, He will enable your memory to remember “from where you have fallen” (Rev. 2:5). Do you remember when… You were in the first grade? You had a first best friend? You were given your first tricycle, big wheel, or bike? Do you remember… Subjects you studied in 3rd grade? The color of your classroom? The name of your elementary school? Some of us remember more details than others about our childhood. My wife remembers many details about her childhood, while I struggle with the details. Though I have trouble with the small stuff, important events stick with me. Remembering a crisis, a happy event, a new job, marriage, or a new relationship seems to come easy. Minor details tend to slip away. I remember talking with my granddad about his childhood and it seemed he could remember more about his childhood than I could about mine. The medical profession tells us that the older we get, the better our long-term memory […] Read More

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